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If I ever have a son, and he rapes anyone, I’m going to blame him, because he freaking raped someone.

Why is this so hard for men to understand? It’s never your fault if you get raped, ever, no matter what. You should be able to be passed out naked in a public park and hey, maybe men should have enough self control to not rape people! What a concept. Oh, and since I know SJS will be all up on me, 98% of rapists are men. So I’m thinking that yeah, it’s pretty safe to say that this is a man-centric-problem. Flat out, this person is disgusting, and I hope that they never have kids.

…ok I don’t seem to understand what is so absolutely disgusting about this, I sort of agree to an extent. If I had a daughter that went to a party, alone, gets drunk off her feet to the point she loses control of herself, and in the process she gets raped, yes the guy is to blame, but why was she putting herself in that kind of a situation to begin with. Yes almost all the rapists in the world are men, but this is a kind of situation that can be avoided if she decided to just not get drunk. If she where to get drugged or something, that would be something completely different context.

And what is this about men NEVER being our fault if we get raped. I mean I know it almost never happens, because honestly think about it, how many women have to TRY and rape a guy. If a girl wants to sleep with a guy, all she has to do is swivel a certain way and boom, she gets what she wants. Yes its not as likely to happen, but this is just comes to show not so much a double standard but just a reasoning behind it. A women wouldn’t have to FORCE a man into having sex with her, or having to drug a man into having sex with her. Practically speaking, what male that has shown to be active sexually in some fashion is going to turn down intercourse with a woman given a chance.

If my daughter did end up getting raped at a frat party she went to alone, yes I would probably follow through with rape charges to settle it. However, she would not leave the house until she was 40 because she should have not put herself into an environment or a situation that something like that could have happened. I’m not saying she is just as much to blame, however I’m saying it’s stupid of her to go alone to a party, having an expectation that all men are chivalrous and will respect her body, and then putting full trust into people she does not know by getting piss drunk. Especially if she had not thought of something like bringing a friend she knew would not want to drink or better yet, just don’t drink to the point you lose control of yourself and you begin to lose control of what happens around you.

At the end of the day the only person that can be blamed for your own safety is yourself. So going somewhere surrounding yourself with people you do not know and trusting them to the highest degree that you do not you do not care for your own well being anymore is just folly.

If someone does have a counter argument for this, I would love to hear it, and I mean that in the most sincerest way possible, I really do want to hear something. This is a topic that I would really like to discuss but only in a way that is orderly and makes sense. If you just say “Fuck you because you have a penis so your argument is invalid”, I will respect your opinion if you respect mine of kindly telling you to go away.

…now I’m starting to wonder how much hate I’ll get for this before I get an actual argument…this will be an interesting experiment.

Alright. I have no problem with civil debate.

1. Nothing about my post was about male rape victims. In fact, if you read my text, it’s gender neutral- for the victims. It is never a person’s fault for getting raped. No matter their gender. So let’s take that whole part out of your argument. My point about the statistic was that 98% of rapists are men, so this is clearly something that something can be addressed as a problem that is created by men. Because they’re the ones raping people 98% of the time.

2. At the end of the day, we are all responsible for our own actions. Rapists are responsible for rape. No one else.

The idea that it’s ‘stupid’ or ‘irresponsible’ to dress a certain way, or drink at a party, or go somewhere without friends, is just victim blaming. You’re saying, it’s your daughter’s fault for getting raped, when in reality? It’s the rapists fault. The man who raped her should get all of the blame. Because we’re talking about blame. When you’re blaming someone, you’re saying ‘you brought this on yourself’. We should expect people to be responsible for their actions, is exactly what you’re saying. Why aren’t we expecting men to be responsible for their actions too? Why are they not responsible for raping your daughter in the first place? Because he’s a man, and you live in an amazing, charmed world where things aren’t your fault. 

So please, tell me why I deserve to get raped if I go to a party, or dress a certain way, or walk down a dark street at night. And please explain to me why it’s my fault, and not the man who is raping me. Please, do tell.

Because no one EVER deserves to be raped, under ANY circumstances. And to blame someone for something that happened against their will? That’s like blaming someone for dying when they were murdered. 

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